Rubber band theory of dating
He said he was sorry and would be sure to not bother me anymore. Maybe he's going to come back with a date proposal?I later told him it was okay, as I understood because he's going through a lot. The dating thing shocked me..week of no contact really did something to him, but he just couldn't pull it off in the end. it's not personal or a reflection on the relationship or how he feels about me FYI: we have been communicating for 6 weeks, seeing each other for a month and approx half a doz dates in that time incl x2 sleep overs, no exclusivity talk (i am still dating and assume he is too but we have not discussed this).to date he has been attentive and seemingly interested and consistent.They make allowances for poor behaviour believing that this is ‘just what men do’ and spend copious amounts of energy trying to understand, fix, heal, help, and accommodate what often amounts to bullsh*t behaviour.
If you try to interrupt this, he'll pull away more.
Stress, grief, coping just after a break-up, trauma and a variety of things can, for periods of time, impact on our ability to emotionally engage on a healthy level with someone.
Where this rubber band theory is problematic is where there are relationships with poor or non existent foundations and also by creating the expectation that all men behave in this way, many women have misguidedly failed to recognise the major red flags in their men when they are in the early stages of dating them.
Things got heavy after I refused to take his bait to ask him to dinner (he's super shy) and then asked him to my place, which prompted him to blow me off by saying he fell asleep because of being exhausted by final's week.
Before he told me that, I told him he had hurt me for the last time by blowing me off again.