Found boyfriend on dating website
The explanations for this are pretty lame but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
If it's not a passive-aggressive way of telling me we have broken up, what is it?
Women, if you find yourself in this situation, that your boyfriend is not only still on line but he’s been active "within an hour," I think you might have to adddress that you have a problem. Maybe he just likes having his ego stroked when women flirt with him?
It may not mean that he’s actually cheating on you, meeting other women and having sex with them, but I do think it means he’s not taking your relationship or feelings as seriously as he probably ought to. This is still somewhat problematic because he isn't exactly in a position to be getting stroked by other women, now is he? All the reasons I could think of for a man to keep a profile active while he’s in a relationship. He likes to flirt with strange women and be flirted with.3.
As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.
Right off the top, you mentioned that you and he have agreed to be exclusive.
The primary reason to keep an online dating profile active is simple: the desire to meet people. Maybe he just likes having his ego stroked when women flirt with him. He may not flirt but likes the idea that women like him. At the very least, this action is a serious sign of disrespect.
The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
The primary reason to keep an online dating profile active is simple: TO MEET NEW WOMEN. None of these appears condusive to long term happiness--or is it just me? He may not flirt but likes the idea that women are looking at him. He doesn’t understand that he’s in a committed relationship.5.
He’s looking to meet or talk to women for some other reason… First, consider that perhaps he’s not as committed to your relationship as he says or you thought.
It’s reasonable to interpret that as meaning you’ve agreed to not date anyone or sleep with anyone else, but I want to ask: when you agreed to be exclusive, how did this come about?
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?