Dating violence myths
Lawanna Lynn Campbell endured a marriage full of domestic violence, infidelity, crack cocaine addiction, and alcohol abuse.When she was told to keep silent about being abused by her husband, she took matters into her own hands.However, LGBTQ youth are even less likely than heterosexual youth to tell anyone or seek help, and there are fewer resources for these teens.FACT: There are many reasons youth may stay in abusive relationship: fear, wanting to be loved and needed, having a partner may be important to a youth’s social status, believing the abuser’s apologies and promises to never do it again, peer pressure, loss of self-confidence, not recognizing what’s happening is abusive, and the impact of TV, music, movies and other forms of media that normalize violence.
A 2001 study of high school students conducted by Harvard University found that one in five teenage girls had been physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.I quickly forgave him after he apologized, and in some morbid way, felt flattered to be loved so much. As many as one-third of all high school and college-age young people experience violence in an intimate or dating relationship. After that first incident of abuse, I believed that my boyfriend was truly sorry and that he wouldn’t ever hit me again. After all, couples often have arguments and fights that are forgiven and forgotten.I later found out that he was very much in control of his actions. People who abuse often use a series of tactics besides violence including threats, intimidation, psychological abuse and isolation to control their partners. My parents fought all the time, and I believed that behavior was normal and unavoidable in marriage." Twitter answered back with #Why IStayed and #Why ILeft, in which survivors shared their stories of why they remained in abusive relationships and why they eventually got out.Yet misconceptions persist — that abuse is a private matter, that women who stay in abusive relationships are simply weak-willed, that women are just as abusive as men. One in four women, and 1 in 7 men, will experience relationship violence in their lives.