Dating a recovering alcoholic first year
Whether they turn out to be happy relationships, or they crash and burn in a few weeks, romantic attachments have the potential to distract the individual from his or her ability to remain focused on recovery and that is the reason that so many are talking about whether or not it’s worth the risk for newcomers.Ryan Miller has worked in substance abuse treatment for the past four years and spent the past two years at Futures.When people become sober it opens up a world of possibility.They can now begin to rebuild their life and get back many of the things they have lost.I want to share with you all some of my experience as well as my point of view on the subject.I’ll start by letting you know this, when I asked my sponsor about not dating my first year of sobriety, he looked me in the eyes and said, “Well, it doesn’t say that anywhere in the Big Book.” So, my sponsor who is a Big Book thumper was telling me that although people suggest it, there’s nothing in the program of recovery that’s outlined in the Big Book that says otherwise.The first few months of recovery are often described as an emotional rollercoaster because there is so much going on.
If you’re like me, some of these suggestions seem silly, and it was hard for me to take suggestions from others in early sobriety, but the one about relationships carries quite a bit of weight.
If your partner needs support, couples counseling and ALANON meetings are recommended.
Oftentimes people in recovery are apprehensive about revealing their sobriety for fear of judgment.
Whether you are single and getting sober, or recovery is a part of your relationship, here are some tips to help you date smarter and safer. A therapeutic environment is a necessity for learning more functional patterns of behavior and gaining insight into the origins of your disease.
In therapy, you will work on assessing readiness, especially for the dating game.