Coping with dating a married man
“Instead of trying to change your partner’s perspective, put your positive energy toward realizing how his attitude helps you and what you can learn from it,” Bertolucci says.While positivity is viewed more, well, positively in our culture, both sides are needed.Unfortunately, in the majority of cases, one of the lovers begins to want something more. Some experts believe that if a married lover fails to make plans to leave home within the first three months of an affair, he or she will never leave.Whether or not this is true, it's certainly apparent that if an affair goes on for a long time – and sometimes they go on for 20 years or more – the outcome is usually bleak.You want to stop seeing your married boyfriend, but every time you go to delete his number in your phone, you stop.He's attractive, attentive and everything else you've ever wanted in a man, so breaking it off is difficult. Opening your eyes to the full reality of the situation will make it easier to end what is, in truth, an unhealthy relationship.If he does, however, consider that he is not reliable marriage material, as he has already shown how seriously he takes his marriage vows.A life with this man means you will forever be looking over your shoulder for 'the other woman.' Remind yourself of this and it will be easier to discontinue the relationship.
But in my experience an affair only helps a marriage in two situations.By dating a married man, you are putting yourself in the position of being second.On holidays, you will be alone while he spends the day with his spouse.I knew it was wrong,so I had to make the best choice for me.And my best advice(from experience) would be to leave him alone.